Little Miss Update- Four Months Home

Wow!  It’s so hard to believe that we have been parents for four months, and today we have our four month visit with our social worker.  Only the six month visit is left, and then we can proceed to the next step in the adoption process for Little Miss.  Adopting from each country is so different, and with Thailand, we still had a long process even after she was in our arms.  While she doesn’t legally have our name at the moment, I am okay with that since she is here with us.  We are all loving every moment.

I enjoy going back and reading the monthly updates that we posted because it reminds me how far our little lady has come.  I still can’t even imagine myself in a country with new EVERYTHING and doing as great as she is doing.  The first question we get from so many people is her language.  It is coming along wonderfully, and each day we notice new words.  She tries to repeat everything we say, and you can tell she is absorbing so much.  Right now her favorite word seems to be “no” which I am guessing is typical of most two-year-old behavior.  The other day in the car she was telling her favorite stuffed animal and My Little Pony “no, no, no, no, no…”  She is now calling our dog Gracie “E,” and that is progress, as we went from “dog” to “name” and now “E”.  It’s just the last syllable, but she’s getting close.  The only Thai word she still says in “Chang” which is elephant, and I don’t blame her.  It’s a lot easier to say than elephant!

Oregon trip - The 2 Seasons

Here we are taking a break from our bike ride in Oregon. 

This month was filled with lots of travel as we went on a trip to Oregon and then Florida.  Little Miss is very observant around other children. She likes to watch every move but not get in the action.  In Oregon our friends have a new baby and a daughter who is a little older than our daughter.  Right off the bat they were friends, and ahhh, it was so fun to see.  They held hands and danced, traded necklaces, and were having the best time.  Seeing her play with other children and having the best time brought a big smile to our faces.  Little Miss was so curious about the baby and was trying to get a peek and see him every chance she could.  She was very gentle and  kind with little one.

 

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Looking at the fish at the Tampa Aquarium.  She really enjoyed seeing all the fish.  

We have been spending lots of time at the pool, and we are amazed that she likes the water as much as she does.  When we were in Thailand, bath time was a trying time.  She hated it and screamed the whole time.  We tried the pool in Thailand at the hotel, and finally, the last day she let me carry her into the pool.  I think because it was 116 degrees outside, and she realized this it was refreshing for at least a moment.  We joined the Charlotte YMCA system, and they have great pools.  A couple of times each week I have been taking her, and each time she is more interested.  Now she gets so excited when we mention the pool, and she loves “swimming” around with her puddle jumper and spinning.  She has been trying to blow bubbles, and again, Yankee and I are shocked to see how much she loves the water.  We thought we would never get her into the pool.

 

 

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Little Miss at home finger painting.

Shortly after the trip to Oregon, we drove down to the Tampa, FL area to visit with family and enjoy some of the activities in the area.  This girl loves her zoos and animals.  We tried out the beach, and she loves the sand and playing with toys in the sand.  Big smiles on her face all around. Again it makes my heart just melt.  I love this girl so much.

While lots of it is fun and giggles, there is still some heartache.  Transitions at times can be difficult.  The moment she is in a new situation or if there are people around, she wants to be held.  Sometimes this only lasts for 30 seconds and other times longer.  She doesn’t realize we are her permanent family and that she is here to stay.  This is where the holding comes into play.  When we met her, they made her walk into the hotel room and her social worker, who she had known since an early age, stopped holding her, and it was all up to us.  The social worker was around for a couple days to ease the transition, but it was all up to us to comfort and hold her.  We think at times that might trigger her, and if she goes into a new situation, she wants to be held to make sure we are not leaving her or sending her somewhere else.  It is still a long road, and we know how far she has come in this short amount of time. We will get there.  I know one day she won’t want to be held, so, I will soak up this time holding her and letting her know she is safe.

 

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She is becoming Daddy’s little girl, and they love reading books together. In the beginning we never thought this never would happen, but it has happened!   She is always bringing him books to read, and she sits on him and, they cuddle reading books.  Her favorites at the moment are “The Very Hungry Caterpiller” and “The Lonely Firefly“.  Her face lights up at the end of this book when she see the lights blinking.  (Thanks Jennifer!)

Thank you all for following along on our journey.  It has been a wild ride, and everyday I am so thankful for our daughter.  It is going by fast.  She will be two in a few days (sniff, sniff)  so I am doing my best to soak up everything –  the good and the tantrums.

If anyone ever has questions about adoptions  or adopting from Thailand, I am always open to answer. Adoption  has been a blessing  to us.

 

To read more about our adoption journey, see the links below.

Three Months Home

Two months home

One Month Home

Home from Our Trip to Thailand

Update from Thailand

Waiting update #5

Waiting update #4

Waiting Update #3 We have a girl!

Waiting Update #2

Waiting Update #1

The life in lifestyle- adoption

We are adopting a baby!

Cheers.

 

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Comments

  1. Carolyn Rasnick says

    My granddaughter is almost 4 and a very outgoing little girl but she still gets shy when she gets in crowds, new situations and people she is not that familiar with or are new to her. She too wants to be held and often turns her head into the shoulder of whoever she is clinging to at that moment. So, this is probably just natural small child behavior and may not have as much to do with her situation as you think. Just a thought…..
    It’s great to know that her safe place is now in your all’s arms and you are who she turns to in those fearful moments! Great job J & C!!
    XO,
    Carolyn

  2. Beth Lowe says

    I can’t believe it has been 4 months. She is growing so rapidly. It warms my heart to read about how happy you are and how well our “Little Miss” is adjusting to her life. My best to you & Charles.
    XOXO,
    Beth

  3. Michelle reeves says

    What a great time it seem that all are having. I’m so happy things are going so well. Enjoy every minute because she will be leaving for school before you turn around twice.

  4. LGilmore says

    Jordan, thank you for sharing with us. I have loved following your adoption journey and reading Little Miss updates. I do hope you continue with the updates.

    Best wishes,
    Carly